DAOS-18190 container: Split destroy

[liw]

Prototype WIP...

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[github-actions]

Ticket title is 'A container destroy operation should prevent accesses before starting to destroy the data'
Status is 'In Progress'
https://daosio.atlassian.net/browse/DAOS-18190

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